tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post1578441957849076061..comments2024-01-23T03:32:55.662-05:00Comments on The Beautiful Gate: Emotional Healing Mary N.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-89906806479765078562013-01-15T13:42:48.496-05:002013-01-15T13:42:48.496-05:00Hi Barb,
This is a good question to ask - it certa...Hi Barb,<br />This is a good question to ask - it certainly makes a difference when we look at things from the perspective of eternity. I was in counseling for a short time too and this helped a bit but I found the spiritual aspects of the human person were mostly overlooked. <br />Yeah, sometimes I'd rather throw a fit too...lol :)<br /><br />I hope the flu cleared out of your household! And I'm hoping it passes my house completely by this year...Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-10372603241814703632013-01-12T13:34:53.301-05:002013-01-12T13:34:53.301-05:00So much of what you've written about here appl...So much of what you've written about here applies to me in the past. I got lucky in my late 20s and got into therapy where I learned to name, claim, and let go of my emotions so they didn't cripple me. It's something I still have to work on today. The question I ask myself when I'm getting up tight is, "In the light of eternity, does this really matter?" God is the only one who never disappoints and who always loves us but still I find myself expecting from family members things they cannot give. It's always a reminder to swivel around and face God, but I can't say it's easy. Sometimes I'd rather throw a temper fit.Barb Schoenebergerhttp://www.sufferingwithjoy.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-80685700494108255562013-01-11T12:48:02.728-05:002013-01-11T12:48:02.728-05:00Hi Victor,
Thanks for your input. I think I'll...Hi Victor,<br />Thanks for your input. I think I'll do as you suggest since the post would be far too long otherwise! I'll try to put it all together, coherently I hope, and get it up next week. <br /><br />God bless! <br /><br />Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-41510734832520919072013-01-11T12:42:19.581-05:002013-01-11T12:42:19.581-05:00Hi Nanette,
Thank you, my friend :)
I hope you a...Hi Nanette,<br />Thank you, my friend :) <br /><br />I hope you are enjoying your new home! You couldn't have had a better builder...lol. Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-60262215027999653902013-01-11T02:38:03.507-05:002013-01-11T02:38:03.507-05:00Hi Mary,
Since returning to Blogging your posts h...Hi Mary,<br /><br />Since returning to Blogging your posts have been very relevant and pertinant to today's problems in society. I understand your concerns about having separate posts on the Community site, perhaps interspersed with other contributors' posts in between. This would make it somewhat untidy, even if your posts are linked, as readers may miss some of them.<br /><br />Personally, I'd prefer one post, shortened perhaps, dealing with all the issues you raise.<br /><br />The world needs a lot of healing right now. A lot of it personal healing as each one carries his or her own baggage of trash accumulated over the years. Your writings I feel can help people struggling with their emotions and not admitting them to themselves.<br /><br />Please e-mail me if you wish to discuss further offline.<br /><br />Thank you and God bless.Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-13440244184202678672013-01-10T21:15:05.206-05:002013-01-10T21:15:05.206-05:00Hi Mary...another thought-filled post. May I remin...Hi Mary...another thought-filled post. May I remind you that what you feel you lack in the emotion category you make up in other areas? You are sensitive, compassionate, loving, kind, gentle...and Godly. These traits make you very special in His eyes & to alll your blogger friends. Nanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12659710455999003457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-9133427959046566912013-01-10T21:08:34.650-05:002013-01-10T21:08:34.650-05:00Hi Colleen,
Yes, I figured you would be able to re...Hi Colleen,<br />Yes, I figured you would be able to relate. I've had to learn to name my feelings too. It took quite a bit of time to even recognize them for what they were! <br /><br />Thanks for commenting :) Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-37118651878941034212013-01-10T20:52:15.831-05:002013-01-10T20:52:15.831-05:00Hi Val,
Say what? Are you sure you are on the rig...Hi Val,<br /> Say what? Are you sure you are on the right blog?<br /> I think we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one. I'm not sure where you are going with this but I definitely disagree with most of your comment. Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-59940416986497497962013-01-10T20:39:31.052-05:002013-01-10T20:39:31.052-05:00Hi Grace :) I have missed you! Thanks for coming b...Hi Grace :) I have missed you! Thanks for coming by. I suspect you know a whole lot more than I do on this subject. I've learned a lot from your posts over the years. Thanks and God bless!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-24124424541832076092013-01-10T20:34:54.743-05:002013-01-10T20:34:54.743-05:00Hi Sue,
They do come through unexpectedly or inapp...Hi Sue,<br />They do come through unexpectedly or inappropriately, don't they? This has happened to me too. <br /><br />No, I haven't read the book you mention yet but I'm curious about it. Thanks for the recommendation!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-80954989475542472972013-01-10T20:28:57.068-05:002013-01-10T20:28:57.068-05:00Hi Karin,
You and I have had to work through some ...Hi Karin,<br />You and I have had to work through some similar issues I think. What's interesting is that underlying my anger was a deep grief - this caught me off guard as I didn't suspect that this was the case.<br /><br />I like the beach ball analogy - it's perfect :)Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-27720078243962265452013-01-10T20:20:37.192-05:002013-01-10T20:20:37.192-05:00Hi Victor,
Thank you for your kind words. This is ...Hi Victor,<br />Thank you for your kind words. This is the post I thought I'd put up on the community site but I think I'd have to put up the couple that follow too. Do you think it would be too much? (I could space them out and simply link them to each other. The post would be too long if I put them all together.)<br /><br />God bless you too :)Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-26704603762852844882013-01-10T19:34:41.913-05:002013-01-10T19:34:41.913-05:00Hi Theresa,
You know that you already have me curi...Hi Theresa,<br />You know that you already have me curious (about your post), don't you? <br /><br />I apologize for chuckling a bit when I read that your thoughts on the "light burden" were similar to mine :) Bless you for being honest - it made me feel better...lol. <br /><br />Yes, it's a long process for most of us I suspect. (But isn't it nice to know you are not alone?) Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-57865357548813384602013-01-10T18:59:48.360-05:002013-01-10T18:59:48.360-05:00Hi Monica,
It's taking years for me - I guess ...Hi Monica,<br />It's taking years for me - I guess it's all in God's timing, not mine. Still, the healing is coming much more quickly and I'm thankful for that! <br /><br />I am praying for you and all my blogging friends. God bless!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-85995573810926426692013-01-10T18:50:21.722-05:002013-01-10T18:50:21.722-05:00Hi Lisa Maria,
Thank you :) A happy and blessed Ne...Hi Lisa Maria,<br />Thank you :) A happy and blessed New Year to you and yours too!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-26736668566287929232013-01-10T18:06:43.311-05:002013-01-10T18:06:43.311-05:00Mary, direct and real. Thank you dear one for sha...Mary, direct and real. Thank you dear one for sharing.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-63267008637331947642013-01-10T17:51:19.426-05:002013-01-10T17:51:19.426-05:00Mary,
Feelings are good. It's just the way we...Mary,<br /><br />Feelings are good. It's just the way we express them that's the problem. Like you, I used to suppress mine. I was too frightened to show how I was feeling. Eventually though, feelings will burst through, usually in an inappropriate way. I can see all that in my own life.<br /><br />Have you read Conrad Baars book "Feeling and Healing Your Emotions"? It is Catholic and very good. After reading it, I understood myself so much better.<br /><br />Thank you for your honest and open post.<br /><br />God bless!Sue Elvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04461161335483760142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-64196167492811440612013-01-10T14:30:31.887-05:002013-01-10T14:30:31.887-05:00When I began the annulment process, the priest who...When I began the annulment process, the priest who was helping me suggested I go for some counseling. I was blessed with a wonderful Catholic counselor who helped me to see the emotions I was not dealing with. In my case it is primarily anger. Growing up in a house where arguing and anger were the conversations of the day, in my mind anger equaled abandonment~someone leaves. I carried this unhealthy attitude into my marriage which also did not last.<br />While not dealing with emotions may seem to make them go away for awhile, they are like that beach ball you try to push under the water, it always pops up somewhere.<br />Thanks Mary for another insightful post and thanks for the list :)<br />Last thing~I promise. Theresa brings up a good point about Spiritual Direction. This too can help us get in touch with where we are not only spiritually, but emotionally too.<br />OK, I'm done :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15124468084334204166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-59326231858176457092013-01-10T12:22:06.459-05:002013-01-10T12:22:06.459-05:00Yet another marvellous post with plenty to think a...Yet another marvellous post with plenty to think about.<br /><br />Since you came back to Blogging your writings have been excellent. Inspired, one would say.<br /><br />Thank you for this.<br /><br />God bless you.Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-3680576494066927412013-01-10T11:33:49.274-05:002013-01-10T11:33:49.274-05:00Oiy...this one hit me like a ton of bricks.
I lov...Oiy...this one hit me like a ton of bricks.<br /><br />I love the quote (and yes I think this ALL the time): "God, I think you might just have forgotten to put the joy gene in me." I am actually working on a post related to joy.<br /><br />I don't have all those symptoms, but a good many...too many. I, too, was thinking "your burden is light???" Thankfully my spiritual director is working with me to identify those underlying emotions.<br />It's a long process.<br /><br />Thanks for a great post!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-88561383348329365312013-01-10T10:34:52.530-05:002013-01-10T10:34:52.530-05:00For the most part, this is me. I'm making pro...For the most part, this is me. I'm making progress,and feeling a sense of peace. But it has been slow in coming. I still have a thought in my mind that is ever present, but it is slowly losing its hold on me. It no longer makes me angry. I am thankful for finally surrendering to Jesus the Healer. So glad you are sharing what's inside.Monica https://www.blogger.com/profile/06880809740306892433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-24775557958655454902013-01-10T08:42:40.358-05:002013-01-10T08:42:40.358-05:00A very convicting post...I see something of myself...A very convicting post...I see something of myself in here. Happy New Year to you and yours and all of God's blessings be upon you.Lisa Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17357560782423451224noreply@blogger.com