tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post7436577477228091202..comments2024-01-23T03:32:55.662-05:00Comments on The Beautiful Gate: Those Fiery DartsMary N.http://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-79186553675744134182013-02-03T14:53:42.584-05:002013-02-03T14:53:42.584-05:00Hi Sue,
I've read your blog many times so I kn...Hi Sue,<br />I've read your blog many times so I know you are far from strange and I'm glad you didn't delete your comment :)<br /><br />God bless you too!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-69156338501010339922013-02-02T21:52:58.530-05:002013-02-02T21:52:58.530-05:00Mary,
I have to stop and thank you for your very ...Mary,<br /><br />I have to stop and thank you for your very kind words, and for taking the time to understand my very confusing story! Your suggestions are very helpful! <br /><br />I had been thinking, "Mary will think me very strange after reading my comment. Perhaps I should go and delete it." But I made myself leave it there (a good exercise in humility), and I am glad I did.<br /><br />God bless.Sue Elvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04461161335483760142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-68489985929302736702013-02-02T19:24:04.429-05:002013-02-02T19:24:04.429-05:00 Thanks, Michael! God bless you too! Thanks, Michael! God bless you too!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-63531272113347218142013-02-02T17:34:21.723-05:002013-02-02T17:34:21.723-05:00Mary,
I always learn more about myself when I rea...Mary, <br />I always learn more about myself when I read your blog. My soul thanks you :)<br />God Bless.Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11166363205001461183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-40220030958599315842013-02-02T16:19:31.691-05:002013-02-02T16:19:31.691-05:00Hi Victor,
No, of course you didn't - this nev...Hi Victor,<br />No, of course you didn't - this never even crossed my mind. I knew what you meant. I should have worded my comment differently because reading it back I can see how it might sound like that was what I was thinking :) <br /><br />Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-15639050134414710492013-02-02T16:12:02.079-05:002013-02-02T16:12:02.079-05:00Of course I was reading your mind, Anabelle. Where...Of course I was reading your mind, Anabelle. Where do you think I got the post? Lol. <br /><br />Passivity versus surrender can be very confusing at times. Even for mind readers ;)Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-67391660042024613022013-02-02T16:10:58.123-05:002013-02-02T16:10:58.123-05:00Hi Grace,
That's for sure! It can be frustrati...Hi Grace,<br />That's for sure! It can be frustrating at times too. Hugs to you too :)Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-3618696945975497062013-02-02T15:58:02.662-05:002013-02-02T15:58:02.662-05:00Hi Barb,
What a blessing to have a father like tha...Hi Barb,<br />What a blessing to have a father like that! It's much easier to accept and understand when done in this manner.Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-21354812018535965622013-02-02T15:53:20.779-05:002013-02-02T15:53:20.779-05:00Hi Sue,
Oh Sue...you are probably right about that...Hi Sue,<br />Oh Sue...you are probably right about that. For some odd reason when I was young I thought others pretty much viewed things similar to how I did - was I ever wrong. People are sensitive and I have to be careful because I am taken the wrong way at times. So I can see how you and your friend could have been on different pages over something. <br /><br /> As for the humor, I think we are funny but I certainly understand how others could get confused ;) The fact that others don't get to hear the tone of voice we are using or see our expression doesn't help either.<br /><br />You should write about it, Sue. It helps us sort through things I think. You wouldn't have to publish it if you chose not to. I would feel hurt if a good friend assumed my intentions were not good without knowing it for sure too. <br /><br />Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-69342023044190811092013-02-02T08:27:40.740-05:002013-02-02T08:27:40.740-05:00Mary, are you reading my mind and blogging about i...Mary, are you reading my mind and blogging about it? Because that's my struggle up there passivity versus surrendering to God. Funny thing is: I'm paying attention when you say it but when someone else does, Grrr. Anabelle Hazardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106609754311503527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-92130181714688758822013-02-02T04:24:07.660-05:002013-02-02T04:24:07.660-05:00Yikes....as we know that the battlefield is in the...Yikes....as we know that the battlefield is in the mind. Satan's playground. Hugs to you my friend....Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-86946294358119429832013-02-01T23:32:28.497-05:002013-02-01T23:32:28.497-05:00Well done. I remember and took to heart my Dad'...Well done. I remember and took to heart my Dad's corrections when he kindly and patiently sat me down and explained what was not Ok in my behavior. That worked much better than all the yelling and smacking of the behind. One was really motivating. I need to practice this more often when I get upset with something my husband does. Barb Schoenebergerhttp://www.sufferingwithjoy.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-68828547441655416912013-02-01T20:45:21.413-05:002013-02-01T20:45:21.413-05:00Thanks Sinder!Thanks Sinder!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-91670213872781265832013-02-01T19:42:37.722-05:002013-02-01T19:42:37.722-05:00Great post Mary!Great post Mary!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755765032863116511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-51469192664253044622013-02-01T19:37:45.176-05:002013-02-01T19:37:45.176-05:00Mary,
"Maybe the words weren't true and ...Mary,<br /><br />"Maybe the words weren't true and your spirit rejected them." Thank you for those words. I think why I feel so much hurt is because I can't believe a close friend would think me capable of such a fault as she accused me of. She failed to see the situation clearly. But I think I should have been far more careful, anticipating that not everyone sees the world like I do. Do you remember us discussing how some people just don't understand our sense of humour? Well, this was one of those cases.<br /><br />Mary, I didn't really think you would have had time to answer my comment. I only wrote it a couple of hours ago. But you are so efficient! I think I needed to chat about this issue. It hides deep within me and I am trying to forget but sometimes that is very difficult... (Drop the thought like a stone and move on!) Sorry to go on. I have got rather off the topic of your post.<br /><br />God bless and thank you!Sue Elvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04461161335483760142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-66507207134867669762013-02-01T19:10:48.760-05:002013-02-01T19:10:48.760-05:00I didn't mean it as a criticism of your writin...I didn't mean it as a criticism of your writing Mary. I meant - it is important enough to be read more than once.<br /><br />God bless you.Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-55083789314919884012013-02-01T18:47:14.629-05:002013-02-01T18:47:14.629-05:00Hi Nancy,
The only thing I was digesting when this...Hi Nancy,<br />The only thing I was digesting when this started happening was humble pie. That stuff digests slowly ;)<br /><br />Glad you liked the post!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-56386231892411571942013-02-01T18:44:16.877-05:002013-02-01T18:44:16.877-05:00Hi Victor,
Thanks - I was hoping I could explain i...Hi Victor,<br />Thanks - I was hoping I could explain it clearly. God bless you too!Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-2980032231549606422013-02-01T18:38:49.733-05:002013-02-01T18:38:49.733-05:00Hi Sue,
Maybe the words weren't true and your ...Hi Sue,<br />Maybe the words weren't true and your spirit rejected them. People aren't always right and sometimes they can "sugarcoat" some really ugly things. <br /><br />I'd be more inclined to wonder if God was trying to get a point across if a bunch of people said the very same thing such as in the case of my passivity. I don't think I would have accepted it if just one or two people mentioned it. <br /><br />I agree, our communication skills aren't always what they should be.<br /><br />God bless you too! <br /><br />Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-33529954143470327832013-02-01T18:30:32.866-05:002013-02-01T18:30:32.866-05:00There has been so much wisdom in your last several...There has been so much wisdom in your last several posts that I haven't been able to comment! (?) (I think I'm too busy digesting). But I want you to know that your words are really hitting home.. thank you!Nancy Shumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05584199691076992017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-89805431736836452992013-02-01T18:08:08.218-05:002013-02-01T18:08:08.218-05:00Hi Monica,
I've found this to be true too. If ...Hi Monica,<br />I've found this to be true too. If things are worded with love and delivered in the right way they can help us a lot.Mary N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06618318192221168152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-51332615294399234802013-02-01T17:13:48.486-05:002013-02-01T17:13:48.486-05:00A lot of good sense in this post. Needs to be read...A lot of good sense in this post. Needs to be read more than once.<br /><br />God bless.Victor S E Moubarakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280638667651857296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-1191424385447396282013-02-01T17:11:41.710-05:002013-02-01T17:11:41.710-05:00Mary,
"Human nature has a tendency to resist...Mary,<br /><br />"Human nature has a tendency to resist correction, especially if it's worded badly." A year or so ago, a close friend wanted to point something out to me. She wrote a letter and thought she was telling me something I really needed to know in a kind way. The problem though was her words weren't kind at all, even though she felt they were. They cut so deep I felt wounded for a long time. I still can't dwell on this incident otherwise the tears and pain return. This led me to ponder our universal communication problem. None of us are really taught how to communicate effectively as we are growing up. We are all at a loss when it comes to saying the right thing, in the most helpful way. We all cause each other so much hurt, not because we intend to, but because we lack communication skills. I've been thinking about writing a post about this. Maybe I will!<br /><br />Thinking a bit more about this... I guess when we are corrected, we need to think about the intention behind a person's words. Did they mean to hurt us, or were they only trying to help, but failed to use the right language.<br /><br />Thank you for yet another thought provoking post, Mary.<br /><br />God bless!Sue Elvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04461161335483760142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4449799335048031917.post-54217046055654191202013-02-01T14:54:00.342-05:002013-02-01T14:54:00.342-05:00Oh, this is good Mary. I know I have had some fri...Oh, this is good Mary. I know I have had some friends in my life, who knew how to give helpful, constructive criticism. I don't feel hurt by what they say. And its good when I take note and think maybe they are right.Monica https://www.blogger.com/profile/06880809740306892433noreply@blogger.com