Showing posts with label Lent. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Lent. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Bucket of Virtues for Kids (And Adults too!)

 Keep Love in Lent 2014

Join in on the 2nd Annual Keep Love in Lent Link-Up!
Add your inspiring LENT post at one of the following Catholic Blogs:

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  Equipping Catholic Families (Monica)
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and discover NEW WAYS to Keep LOVE in LENT!

For Lent, our family usually makes a fasting cup which we fill with slips of paper that have things that we can fast from listed on them but we decided to do something different this year:

Michaela and I have been studying virtues lately and since the best way to learn is by doing I decided that a "virtues bucket" would be the best and most practical way for her to integrate the virtues into her daily life.


We used an old plastic coffee container as a bucket, decorated it, and then cut out flowers and butterflies and wrote down a virtue on each one. On the reverse side of the cards we wrote down
which vice the virtue opposes or what help the virtue gives.



Each day we will pick one card from the "virtues bucket" and will then put into practice for that day the particular virtue we have picked. At the end of the day, after our evening prayer, we will go over the opportunities we had to practice the virtue and how we can further work the virtue into our everyday lives.

The list of virtues we used can be found here (Theological and Cardinal Virtues, along with a good activity that will help kids learn about them) and here (the moral virtues).


Have a blessed Lent!

(Can you tell I just dusted? Yep, Mom is practicing "diligence" today!)


Friday, February 8, 2013

The Problem with Passivity


Photo source: Wikimedia Commons


One of the spiritual difficulties I've struggled with over the years and still battle against is passivity. The problem with passivity is that it can look so good on the surface but it can keep you from taking direct action to solve a problem. This excessive passivity sometimes excuses itself under the guise of "surrendering things to God". It talks about problems but struggles when it's time to take action because it is apathetic and doesn't really want to disturb itself or because it is overwhelmed and doesn't know where to start.

So, what exactly is passivity? And why is it such a negative thing at times? 

The Free Dictionary defines passivity as:
The condition or quality of being passive; inactivity, quiescence, or submissiveness. Some of its synonyms are: spiritlessness, numbness, apathy, indifference.

 Submissiveness doesn't sound too bad, right?

Well, it all depends on who or what you are submitting yourself to. We can sometimes fool ourselves into thinking that we are "turning the other cheek" when the truth may be that we don't want to get ourselves involved in a difficult situation. Satan happens to love inertia. He can create a little hell for families or a nation just by convincing people that passivity is a good thing through things like:

"It's best not to disturb the waters because it may start a fight."
                                   and
"If I just leave the situation alone it will resolve itself."
                                    or
"One person can't make a difference anyway. What's the point in trying?"


And sometimes the "situation" resolves itself right into chaos simply because no one is willing to do something about it.

Apathy and sloth often clothe themselves as passivity. After all, passivity sounds better, right? It excuses its own behavior. "I'm just a passive person by nature" sounds so much holier than "I'm just an apathetic person by nature".  We all need periods of prayer, rest, and quiet but this is to prepare us for activity not for more passivity. A trap I've fallen into many times is excusing my lack of action by saying, "Well I prayed about it, didn't I?" The problem being is that the prayer needed to be followed by an action. At times I have taken "let go and let God" a bit too far and sinned by omission instead of commission.

God is active, not passive. Grace is active. It's important that we have an active, living faith not a dead faith that slaps everything into God's hands and goes its own way. Passivity is rarely surrender
to God, passivity is usually a surrender to self. When you look at the lives of the great saints you will see surrender to the will of God but very rarely an excessive passivity. Saints accomplished a lot. And some of them didn't even have to go very far to do this!

Here is an example of the difference between surrender to God and apathy/passivity:

I (Mother Teresa) had the most extraordinary experience once in Bombay. There was a big conference about hunger. I was supposed to go to that meeting and I lost the way. Suddenly I came to that place, and right in front of the door to where hundreds of people were talking about food and hunger, I found a dying man.

I took him out and took him home.

He died there.

He died of hunger.

And the people inside were talking about how in 15 years we will have so much food, so much this, so much that, and that man died.

See the difference?

                                 (Words to Love By - Mother Teresa)

The people at the conference thought they were helping to solve world hunger by their speaking (or praying) about it when action was what was needed in this man's case.

On the opposite end of the spectrum are those who believe they can do it all, take on too much, and fizzle out within a few days. I've done this too and I believe that God allows us to fail in our endeavors sometimes because we are working from a place of pride.

If we do see these traits in ourselves what can we do about it?

We can pray AND act, but with prudence and love. It's all about balance. Mother Teresa in Words to Love By explains it like this:

I never look at the masses as my responsibility. I look at the individual. I can only love one person at a time. I can feed only one person at a time.

Just one, one, one...

She goes on to say that this is what we are to do also. Begin with one. We can apply her words to other areas, it doesn't have to be feeding the hungry.

I like Mother's way because she understands that each person is special. They are not nameless faces but individuals who deserve her undivided attention. By looking at others and seeing who they are she brought healing to both their bodies AND souls. She treated both the hunger for love and the physical hunger.

May God kindle within us an active, living faith this Lent. A faith with a fire so bright that it
 kindles the same flame in the hearts of others around us. One by one by one...


You go to pray: to become a bonfire, a living flame, giving heart and light. 
                                                     St Josemaria Escriva













Saturday, April 16, 2011

Sabbath Moments

Sabbath moments is a weekly meme hosted by Colleen at Thoughts on Grace. These are the times when we live in the "present moment" and find God's goodness everywhere.

The second half of Lent has been going more smoothly for me than the first half, I must say. Then again, I'm looking at it from a human perspective so...who knows? Just don't ask me about the fasting, okay?  (Blame it on chocolate! Does me in every time!)

In preparation for Holy Week a nearby church held a 40 Hours Devotion and also heard Confessions for 40 hours and I was able to go to Confession, Mass, and Adoration on Monday. This was a great blessing for me as I had been trying to get to Confession before Holy Week and I had missed out on Adoration during the first couple weeks of Lent.

I picked out a beautiful dress for my daughter's First Communion which will take place in a few weeks. Michaela is  very excited and so am I! The only thing I still need to get is the veil. I found one but I have to return it because I want the headband style. The other types are too difficult to keep in place.

The weather here has been beautiful! It actually reached 80 degrees on Monday which is unheard of around here this early in April. The entire week has been gorgeous though it has cooled down a bit since Monday. Michaela and I were able to spend some time outdoors; we went to the park and also had a little picnic on a huge granite slab in the woods near our house. It's nice to be able to spend more time outside now that the weather has improved. Michaela doesn't like being "cooped up" in the house for long and, if I'm being honest, I was feeling a bit stir-crazy myself, so we were both glad to get out of the house.

I hope everyone has a blessed Holy Week!

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Sabbath Moments - Where's the Beef?

Sabbath Moments is a weekly meme hosted by Colleen at Thoughts on Grace. These are the moments when we "let go and let God" and find the "sacred in the ordinary".

Every year I make plans for Lent and rarely do the plans I make come to fruition. My "idea" of a holy Lent is to attend Mass often, pray and read the Bible more than usual, give, and try to overcome sinful habits. And this is good. There is nothing wrong with these ideas. The reality of Lent tends to be far different than my "dream" of a perfect Lent usually is. So what has my Lent REALLY been like?

 I have only been able to attend daily Mass a few times so far. Instead of receiving Communion often I've been relying on spiritual communions instead. We've had to deal with the flu, colds, and injuries on a weekly basis. Prayer has been dry and forced. God is definitely doing some spiritual pruning here. I've been through times like this before and I realize that though it may seem as if all spiritual progress has come to a standstill the opposite is usually true and these are the periods where we not only ARE making progress but we are also learning about ourselves and God at the same time. To accept God's will gracefully requires giving up our own thoughts and ideas about holiness and trusting in Him alone.

So if asked if this has been a good Lent so far I would have to say:

Yes...very.

The meat may be scarce but the fruit has been abundant.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Sabbath Moments - Fasting from fasting?

Sabbath Moments is a weekly meme hosted by Colleen at Thoughts on Grace. These are the moments when we keep our eyes on God and find the sacred in the ordinary.

We've had another little taste of spring this week. Thursday and Friday were gorgeous days and Michaela and I took advantage of the beautiful weather. We went for a long walk and then had a mini picnic on a bench that looks over a pond near our house. The pond was partly frozen but still pretty to look at. There wasn't a cloud in the sky! Considering how many overcast days we have had this month, to have the sun shining brightly on us was an opportunity we were not going to miss. We also walked through the woods which were a bit muddy much to Michaela's glee. I wonder how old a child has to be before they get over this love for mud?

Just kidding! I'm glad she likes mud! I've encouraged her to play in the dirt since she was a tot. I think dirt is good for kids and fun to play in, too.  Thankfully, kids are washable.

Earlier in the week I wrote about the "Fasting Cup" and the "Prayer Bowl". The Prayer Bowl is going very well, Michaela loves picking from it. The Fasting Cup? Well...not so good. She said she's not picking from that cup anymore! Lol! I guess it was harder than she thought it would be. I'm not that concerned because the idea was to teach her about Lent, not to make her feel overwhelmed and frustrated. Maybe when she's a bit older fasting will come easier. If I'm being honest, it doesn't always come easy for me either!

Her exact words:
I'm fasting from the Fasting Cup, Mom! Okay?

Kid logic. You gotta laugh.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The Fasting Cup

My parish has family gathering sessions a few times each year to help its parishioners, especially the children, better understand their Catholic Faith. The theme of the most recent gathering session was Lent and what families could do to during this period of time to help the kids understand the meaning of Lent and the importance of abstinence, fasting, prayer, and almsgiving. There were a lot of great ideas on how to get the entire family involved in Lenten practices and one of my favorites was "The Fasting Cup".  Michaela decorated a large cup and we each wrote down things on slips of paper that we thought it would be good to fast from during Lent and placed them in the cup. Michaela, knowing her father and I very well, wrote down a number of things such as giving up coffee, the computer and the TV, among other things. ( I'm sure Randy is hoping I'll pick the coffee slip!) Randy and I also filled out a number of slips with things that we thought she could do, also, like giving up video games, desserts, complaining (grin) and other things that she particularly likes. Each day everyone takes a slip from The Fasting Cup and gives up that item for the day (or longer for the adults).

We also made a "Prayer Bowl" that we filled with ideas for doing extra things for the Lord during Lent and each person picks from that bowl once a day. Today, my "extra" is to learn about a new or little known saint and tonight I will share what I learned with the others. Michaela picked "being extra loving to people" and Randy picked "praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet".  The slips in the Prayer Bowl contain anything from "extra Bible reading" to "Praying for the person in this world who needs it the most". 

Michaela is very excited about putting these ideas into practice and I have to admit that her enthusiasm is catchy - I'm not sure I've ever been so excited about fasting before. Seeing things through the eyes of a child seems to make all the difference.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Operation Rice Bowl

This Lent we are taking part in the Operation Rice Bowl. I'm trying to help Michaela understand making sacrifices for others and charitable giving. Operation Rice Bowl is put out by Catholic Relief Services and the money is used to help the poor. The basic premise is to prepare simple meals during Lent and to make family sacrifices. You put the money you save through these practices in a container and send it in after Lent. We are planning to give up our Lenten pizza night on Fridays [because we usually order it from a pizza place] and various other family treats. I asked Michaela if she wanted to give up sweets for Lent and I bet you can guess her answer :) "My sweets! Oh, mom! Anything but that! I'll give up other things instead."  Well...I tried. She did have a nice long list of things that she WAS willing to give up so I guess I should be pleased. She often prays and thinks of people in need, especially children. During her school food drive I watched this tiny child lug a backpack and a bag of can goods to school. She could barely walk! I offered to help her but she wanted to do it herself. Last night she dug through our change jar and pulled out the pennies for the "Penny Drive" at school. The kids got to pick out the charity that the money goes to. I think she is getting the right idea :)

Michaela likes to practice  "random acts of kindness" and I explained to her that these are what pleases God the most. Doing things for love alone. If she learns this I will be so thankful, for everything passes on this earth except love ...we take this one with us when we go.

Dear Heavenly Father, please bless all families this Lent. Help us teach our children about love and helping others. We are very blessed to have a wonderful example in the Holy Family. Help us to model our families after Joseph, Mary, and Jesus and pour your healing love upon us all, that there may be no divisions among family members or among the Body Of Christ on earth. I ask this in the name of your beloved Son. Amen.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Offer Praise

"Offer praise as your sacrifice to God,
 fulfill your vows to the Most High.
 Then call on me in time of distress;
  I will rescue you, and you shall honor me."    Psalm 50: 14, 15

A few months ago my mother received a word  "I live in the praises of my people". Another one was, "The whole earth is groaning." Seeing that Lent is almost upon us, I thought it was a good time to reprint these words. During Lent, as we abstain and fast from things of the world let us remember that as good as these things are -  it is most important to keep our eyes on God and offer praise for all that He has given us, but most of all, simply because He is God. We must remember to circumcise our hearts. The entire earth is groaning with the weight of our sins. This Lent would be a good time to take a long hard look at ourselves and to fast from anger, unlovingness, unkind thoughts and words. Get to the HEART of the matter. Fasting and then turning around and yelling at the driver behind you....is this what God wants? Giving up sweets and then acting in an unloving manner toward others...does this please God?  No, we should fast, pray, AND work on charity and the other virtues.

"But to the wicked God says:
"Why do you recite my commandments and profess my covenant with your lips?
You hate discipline; you cast my words behind you!
When you see thieves, you befriend them; with adulterers you throw in your lot.
You give your mouth free rein for evil; you harness your tongue to deceit.
You sit maligning your own kin, slandering the child of your mother.
When you do these things should I be silent?
Or do you think that I am like you?
I accuse you, I lay a charge before you.

Understand this, you who forget God, lest I attack you with no one to rescue.
Those who offer praise as a sacrifice honor me;
 to the obedient I will show the salvation of God."    Psalm 50: 16-23

Father of all, may we all increase in charity during the Holy Season ahead. Pour your love into all the dark corners of our hearts so that we may become aware of the areas that we need to work on. May we respond to the grace and light you shine upon us that we may truly become like your Son, Jesus Christ. Heal the wounds and divisions among families and countries. I praise You and thank You for your goodness and patience with us, but most of all I praise You because You are the great I AM and everything is yours.