There are times when our minds can greatly hold us back. We are told we are new creations in Christ but our thoughts disagree. God's word is truth but sometimes things change over a period of time instead of instantly. Plus, we can be our own worst enemies. The best advice I could ever give anyone is to capture their thoughts in Christ. Especially those who are troubled. Let me explain what I mean:
Even before my AHA! moment in the Lord's presence I was aware that my thinking was all messed up and that not everyone thought the way I did. My thoughtlife reeked. Stinking thinking. This doesn't just happen to alcoholics, it happens to many, many people. As a matter of fact, I think most people have at least occasional problems in this area. I rarely drink [though I had my moments when I was younger as you have read]. People tend to connect this type of thinking with addictions only but I believe that most people have this; some more than others. I tried to overcome this through various means when I was younger but nothing stuck. Probably because I was not in a state of grace. After God removed the scales from my soul, I still had to work on my mind. I'll probably have to always do this. God has my hand now, so it is much easier.
After my conversion I REALLY became aware of just how negative my thought life was. Removing this thinking [with God's grace] became a daily thing. At first I literally had to do this on a constant basis. It was like retraining the mind. Out with the old ...in with the new. Pay attention to your thoughts for a while. When you notice negative thoughts creeping in, call on the Lord. For those who were raised in very dysfunctional households, remember this:
You are not what others think you are, no one knows you but God. We become layered with other people's misconceptions of us until we cannot even see ourselves. Throw out everything that others have told you and ask the Lord to reveal your true self. It may be gradual [or not] but God will show you that only His perception of you is the true one. And you are His child. Counterattack your unloving thoughts about yourself with the knowledge that He loves you. He loves you with an infinite love. Believe in this. It is total truth. Let Him love you; you were created to live in this love.
I am laughing because I am getting witness after witness of this great love God has for each and every one of us as I write this. The Holy Spirit is confirming this truth. None are excluded from this love. He never walks away from us - we walk away from Him.
You are free in the name of Christ. Believe this.
"Do not conform yourself to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect." Romans 12:2
It pleases the Father to give us The Kingdom!